You are so important in during this illness.

 This illness is hard because we do no want to be in this situation.

We want to have the energy to be able to do things, even simple things like sit and chat for a while. So when the social situation comes up where we are enjoying ourselves, we already feel pressure to stay. It is like balancing on a blade, easy to tip either way. So then when there is any extra pressure to stay (out of politeness, embarrassment or being explicitly asked to), it is all to easy to do so. But this can be very dangerous for our health.

 I found putting checks into place against myself, such as setting a time limit before meeting with someone, really helped because there was a guideline for the other person and for myself.

 What’s really hard is when family and friends say things like “are you still sick? Surely you’re better now” or “why are you being so lazy – get up and do something!”. This is very unfair.

 Want to know what the difference between lazy and energy-sick is? The desire or will! We want to do things, but simply can’t. Lazy is when you don’t want to do something or cant be bothered. We would be bothered if we had the energy!

 So what can you do to help someone with these illnesses?

• Show that you care by being understanding
• Please don’t be angry or frustrated if we get tired
• Help us with physical things
• Show us that we are still part of the world by sending emails or cards

I found animals, flowers and nature helped. This might be just me, but to look at something natural like the sky or flowers, or pet an animal was calming and peaceful.

Fellow sufferers – what helped you the most?

Family & friends – what do you think?

It doesn’t seem fair, does it?

Those who work harder and push themselves more get punished by getting more severe Glandular Fever and/or Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia. We try extra hard to achieve and be productive and then end up suffering more…not fair, is it?

I know, I know! – this is where everyone says things like “well you pushed yourself too hard” and “you need to learn to slow down”.

Important note: There is truth to this; most likely we do need to reassess and find ways to bring balance and ‘down time’ into our busy lives. But do you think telling us that it’s our fault and that we brought this illness onto ourselves is helpful? Not after the 100^th time it’s not!

So, this section is specifically for athletes and very busy people because the change from super-busy, constantly active person to lying on the couch for days at a time because you’re too tired to move is especially hard to adjust to. It’s going from one extreme to the other.

I would love to hear from fellow athletes, academics, and busy people. How did you cope with the adjustment? What are you doing now to find balance?

Athletes in particular have a hard time, because being physical is what you do! You spend hours and hours making sure your body is in excellent physical condition and spend months training your mind to push through mental barriers and then WHAM you go to being unenergetic, unmotivated coach potato.

What makes it worse is that your team mates/training buddies and competitors are continuing to train and get better. Plus, you have no idea how long it will take for you to start training again.

Is it better for you to over-estimate? But this again is hard to adjust to and can just lead to you feeling more depressed. Or should you under-estimate? But then if you don’t get there, you will feel bad also.

I took some consolation from the knowledge that other top athletes have battling with and overcome Glandular Fever. I read that Stephanie Rice struggled with it for two years – and while those years must have been hard, she was able to compete again.

So, there is HOPE.

I think you need to accept that your body will not be back to the state it was for a few months, but it will happen. Just be patient and optimistic.

What about you? Do you agree? Disagree? Comment?

How long will it last?

How do I know if I am getting better?

How do I know when I need to rest?

These are just some of the questions you ask yourself while experiencing Glandular Fever.

Doctors and books will give you some indication as to what you can expect, but I believe nothing is as good as hearing from others who have gone through the same.  One of the hardest things about this illness is that no one can tell you exactly what to expect. While everyone’s experience will differ, I believe by sharing our story we can at least help prepare and support those going through it now.

What you may expect PHYSICALLY

Here I am not just talking about the initial stage of sore throat, fever and swollen glands. I am talking about what to expect afterwards. (Don’t get me wrong; this first bit is hard too – I needed morphine, anti-inflammatories and a few days in the hospital). But once this stage passes, the real challenge begins.

One of the most interesting things I found was the various different types of tiredness. I know – ‘types of tiredness’, what on earth do you mean?! Before experiencing Glandular Fever, I did not know so many different types of tiredness existed!There is the really really deep tiredness that feels like every bone and every cell in your body is just exhausted. Then there was the headache-y tiredness which is more like a warning that you are pushing yourself and need to back off. Or, worst of all, when you feel so tired all you want to do is sleep, but you can’t sleep, so you are stuck in horrible limbo for hours.

Glandular Fever quite often also affects the spleen or liver. Mine was my liver. Who knew that liver’s could hurt? I sure didn’t! The pain was hardly bearable at the start, but then later it only hurt when I was starting to get tired – a handy little sign from my body to slow down!

Now, 6 months later, I am feeling much better – I only need short naps during the day and feel almost like my old energetic self when I am awake. Something that really helped me feel physically better is when I started feeling mentally and emotionally better.

Please visit the section of “What you can expect mentally and emotionally” for more.

Everyone’s experience will vary. I would love to hear about yours!

Especially if you have or have had Chronic Fatigue or Fibromyalgia – these are obviously much harder to deal with and a different experience again.

Please, help others by sharing your story!

“Just rest” is not satisfactory if you ask me. While it is clearly an important part of the recovery, it does not help you mentally or emotionally because it doesn’t feel like you are doing anything. Feeling proactive in your recovery is very helpful mentally and emotionally (as well as physically, hopefully!).

There are several natural and alternative treatment options available and many places advertising how their treatment is the best one.

Personally, I found Chinese herbs to be extremely effective (much more than the loads of vitamins I was taking). In fact, I found the approach of Traditional Chinese Medicine extremely helpful because it deals with the illness holistically. After about two weeks of taking the herbs, I felt almost like my old self again! It was amazing!

I would love to hear from you.

What did you do? What did you try? What helped you?

Also, which specific people and places helped you?