Acceptance or resignation?
Alright, you’ve been diagnosed, you’ve had it for a while, you know it will take time to recover. So you know that you need to take it easy and not push yourself too hard.
So how do you know if you have accepted the reality of your condition, or have resigned yourself to a life of small amounts of energy?
Good question…. What do you think?
Perhaps the answer lies in your approach. Perhaps ‘acceptance’ is making peace with the fact that you cannot give 110% energy as often as you would like, but that it’s ok. I think this is easier to feel, the more energy you have. Then maybe ‘resignation’ is done with an air of giving up, of hopelessness.
I think this questions touches on a deeper question of control. There are some things you can control, and others that you can’t. Our job is to figure out which is which.
In regards to the glandular fever, personally, I believe it is better to be hopeful and keep looking to the future. You WILL get better. Maybe sooner, maybe later, but it WILL happen. If it doesnt, isn’t it better for you mentally and spiritually to believe that it is?
My, so many questions! What do you think?
December 2nd, 2010 at 5:02 pm
Hi there, I stumbled across your site today, while searching for information for my son, about recovering from Glandular Fever! You have no idea how much I have gained from reading your posts. Thank you for taking the time to write about it
Can I ask a question? Were headaches a part of your Glandular Fever experience? We are about 10 weeks into the diagnosis, and my son is experiencing daily headaches, which are worrying him alot.
December 3rd, 2010 at 7:49 pm
Thank you for you comment, Narelle!
If my writing about my experiences helps at least one person, then I have succeeded. Thank you.
I did not experience headaches, though I had mental ‘fogginess’ and extreme dizziness for a few weeks. I am not a doctor, so I cannot say what the headaches are from. If they are worrying you or him, it’s probably best to see a doctor and seek their opinion.
Personally, I found that while western doctors were very helpful in the early stages of diagnosis and sore throat period, they could not provide much in terms of ongoing symptoms. Rest, trying to exercise and anti-depressants were the solutions I was given.
In this way, alternative medicines helped me immensely! Naturopaths, acupuncture and traditional chinese medicine all increased my condition significantly.
May I also say that it is very wonderful of you to be so active in helping your son. It really makes a world of difference.
Please tell your son that my thoughts are with him, and let us know how he goes.
Thanks again!